Ok, I am sick and tired of the spam messages I keep getting; comments people try to leave on my blog with a link to their own website in the hope that it'll lead to an increase in visitors. Sorry folks, I never let such comments through.
However, there is one I'd like to make a post for. Today someone left a comment saying that they would link to my blog from their website ... I'm not naive enough to believe that they will ... but their site is a dating website for the disabled. And you know what, that's something I think is useful and important to my readers.
I signed up to a dating website a couple of years ago, and the experience was absolutely horrific. If I did not write on my profile that I am disabled, when the people I talked to found out that I am, they accused me of leading them on. If I did write on my profile that I am disabled, I received messages from people either telling me I had no right to be on a dating website, or even creepier, from people who wanted to know all the details of my disability. It was no win situation.
I can see pros and cons to the concept of a disabled dating website. From personal experience I can tell you that two disabled people in a relationship together can be twice as difficult as one disabled, and one able bodied. On the other hand though, who understands disability better than anyone else? Disabled people! My disabled friends are the most supportive. They understand. They relate. So yes, I advocate disabled dating sites.
I would give one word of warning though. When you tell people up front that you are disabled, you are telling them that you are vulnerable. There are people who prey on the vulnerable. There are those who 'like the idea' of caring for someone, not always with the best intentions. Always tell someone where you are going, and who with. Always get pictures of the people you are going to see before you see them, share these with someone. Always take your phone, and keep it turned on; answer it if someone phones. Have a safeword that you can slip into conversation with a friend if you need help. That safeword can save your life.
This is the website that left a comment on my blog: YourDisabledDating.com
And here are a few more: